La Dolce Vita
La Dolce Vita
By Stephen Di Biase, Ph.D.
"La Dolce Vita", The Good Life, was an act of love stimulated by our children who graciously requested that I capture my point of view on life for them and to share with family members to come. What an incredible honor to have such a request from one's grown and successful children, before I'm dead, since writing from beyond the grave is somewhat tricky.
My life has been wonderful, and one better than I deserve, given the "hand I was dealt." Losing my mother at age 4, becoming seriously and chronically ill at 15, and being no better than average in everything else without having much money.
What has been wonderful about my life? A great spouse, children, grandchildren, and successful career more than 20 years in the "C-suite". How did this happen? That is what I share in "La Dolce Vita" for anyone looking for an example of creating the good life for themselves.
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How did I come to write this book?
Implausible as it may seem, it was by popular demand of those wanting to remember me for something important. I couldn’t be prouder of the opportunity to share my educated points of view with the people most important in my life: Denise, Chris, Stephanie, Nick and Robert Benson (aka Arnold).
While I take this very seriously, much of it will be “tongue-in-cheek,” so that the readers may remember it for a longer period of time. I guess we all fear being forgotten, and hopefully by writing in this style and conveying my sense of humor, I’ll be remembered.
When I come upon something new or different, my natural inclination is to ask: what’s it like? instead of questions like: why did this happen? what does it mean? or how do I change it? I believe this first response reflects my innate curiosity to learn as much as possible. By asking, "What is it like?" I can understand things I’ve never experienced by relating them to something I already know, which is a powerful way of teaching yourself.
That being said, where are we to begin?
Well, I’ve broken this into four chapters starting with life’s essentials and ending with entertainment. I once began reading a book titled Sh*t My Dad Would Say, and after about 20 pages, I realized it was sh*t that nobody would care about. Unfortunately, this was after I spent $9.95 for the privilege of learning it was sh*t. I promise not to do that to anyone else by either making this worth reading at some price, or by giving it away, since most people don’t value their time anyway, given the stupid sh*t people do with it as if it were “free” (it’s not, by the way). Nothing in life is free, not even death (go and try to bury someone – $10K please!). When my time comes, I’ll be happy being put in the compost bin, and calling it a day.
Our journey begins with the foundation that holds the greatest importance: Life, Love, Forgiveness, and Health, usually in that order. My philosophy has always been to begin with the really important stuff first and if you have time and energy you can cover the unimportant things later. I tend to dismiss the unimportant stuff, but it’s amazing how many people don’t. Most people do this the other way around. But the order of addressing things determines the direction of your life – good and bad. However, my goal is not to be talking down to you. I would never do such a thing.
In life, “Common Sense is not Common,” and a lack of “Common Sense” leads to all kinds of hassles, both big and small. Speaking of things not being “Common,” the only “Virtue”, that is common is that we’re all becoming less knowledgeable (or more ignorant, depending on how you phrase it) as the Web and the “Internet of Things or Everything,” expands available knowledge faster than we can absorb it.
Chapter 2 is a commentary on what I call “Life’s Legos” – the pieces that come together in both good and bad ways, offering us the “Spice of Life,” including Family, Relatives, Friends and Enemies, each of which gives us all heartburn from time to time.
After some Maalox, in Chapter 3, I’ll discuss what people believe to be the most important part of life – Our Careers and generating wealth, having power and, if we’re lucky, enjoying retirement. Unfortunately, most people put too much emphasis on these topics, which detracts from what is really meaningful in life.
Finally, Chapter 4 finishes things off with something serious: What happens when it’s all over – Spirituality, Fear, Death and what’s next?
For some of us, this is a bad thing, but hopefully, not for anyone reading this book. Preparing for the After Life should be easy! Especially since God has told us all exactly what to do (and not do), much to the dismay of many.
I’ve structured the book in a way that each page makes a point that can be pondered, like the books sold in tourist traps, except this one lacks any artistic qualities as I possess none.
It also makes for easier reflection, should anyone take this work seriously enough to do that, which I hope is the case.
It is my intention to publish this as an e-book, on the off-chance others may wish to read it. I once saw a book titled Let Me Tell You by O. J. Simpson which was on sale for 99 cents in the used book bin of a Discount Drug Mart. Very befitting of O. J., but not the vision I have for this. I’d actually prefer it be used as a fire starter than show up in the used book bin.
Food for thought before you read this book
"Before you speak, listen,
Before you write, think,
Before you spend, earn,
Before you invest, investigate,
Before you criticize, wait,
Before you pray, forgive,
Before you quit, try,
Before you retire, save,
Before you die, give."
~ William Arthur Ward ~